1. pay attention to your language and note each time you use reactive language:
"if only," i can't,", "i have to"
2. identify an experience where u might encounter a reactive response from yourself. how could you respond proactively instead? map out and respond proactively.
3. select a problem from current life (relation, work, finances) and whether it's direct (your behavior has control over it), indirect (others behavior have control), or no control (problems beyond our scope - past, situational, i.e. broke). map out proactive steps u can take to change this.
action plan:
2. don't have enough time to write. no one will want to read my writing. my grammar is poor. i need more training in my writing. i need to get some editor. i need to collaborate.
i will find accountability partners to share my writing with. i will carve an hour a day to write. i believe in my writing. my value: i think my writing is impotant and worth being out there to help others. i don't think that it is sleazy but could be useful and helpful.
i will carbe time daily. i will actively send my writings out to agents.
2. sara is unclean, and moody, and broke and wreckless in her spending, and mentally unstable, a nd a flirt, and fickle...
i will see all that is good about her, because my value is compassion and love and honesty. and i will remain steadfast with my truth about concerns, and work through them, while being loving to her and checking in with her, and see how she is doing by following up with her.
2. reactive: my asana sequence is boring and my body sucks, and i am so inflexible and lazy.
proactive: i try/experiment with new sequences and push my limits in doing so. i share with others to help them. i develop techniques to help those in need and to be of service. value: i believe my body and this lifetime is a gift and i believe i can grow and shape and be of service to others by being fearless in trying and be genuine with myself and otherse in my process.
2. reactive: my friends disappeared. they don't bother writing me, or don't even check in. this includes my cousins who i guess i should check in with, but they never check in with me, and they'd probably want to know what i was doing with myself, so i'll just wait till i have these degrees.
proactive: i will actively reach out to them and be transparent with my process, because of my value - compassion, show up for those who show up for you, because giving is part of life's longing and the apple tree never discriminates on who takes from its fall. so give, with love and compassion, and interest, and worship.
3. reactive, i need money, but because of 1 - direct - my attitude, i am afraid to take risks because i feel i will lose and it will consume my time and that i have time to get to it later, and i'll just do it later, cause there is a later.
proactive: based on the value that life is a gift, and this moment is precious, and all things happen through purposeful work, and work is worship (to love in sweat), i will stick to yoga of classroom management, write a draft, email the necc peeopl, including do interviews, or setting them up, and collaborating with the people i think could be helpful towards this enture, because this book is important and will be helpful, and it will also help me with my finances.
proactive: developing a massage app will help those in massage school, and in the massage world, by helping them interaact with and perform strokes, proactively.
